the infamous 19-question questionnaire

The 19 questions we each have to answer:

1. Describe your personality?
2. Describe your spouse’s personality?
3. What are your strengths?
4. What are your limitations?
5. What do you feel are the strong points in your marriage?
6. What do you feel are the areas for further growth in your marriage?
7. How do you resolve conflict in your marriage?
8. What are your interests as an individual?
9. What are your interests as a couple?
10. What are your attributes that you feel best contribute toward your ability to parent?
11. Who/What has been the strongest influence in your life to date?
12. What do you regard as your greatest personal achievement to date?
13. What three things would you most like to be said about you if you died today?
14. What are your needs as a person? Which ones are satisfied within your family, your work, in recreational activities, in other ways?
15. In what ways would you find satisfaction and fulfillment if you never had children?
16. What are your most important values?
17. What are your expectations for your child?
18. What goals do you wish your child to achieve?
19. What are your thoughts on the following:

• Parenting
• Discipline
• Love
• Positive Self-Image
• Negative Self-Image
• Adoption
• Biological Parents

I think these would be difficult for just about anyone to answer! I think #13 is my least favorite.

This is the hardest thing we've done so far, even more difficult than the autobiographies. I just want others who are considering adoption to know these are potential questions you could be asked, so you can think about stuff like this ahead of time!


We are saving copies of everything for ourselves of course, but also things like this are going in to the baby's book :)