Friday, February 20, 2009

nothing much to report

Every "adoptive parents wanted" listing we get from our attorney is way out of our league (financially). Very frustrating. The waiting is terrible and the economy isn't helping. Very frustrating. I can't help but wonder if we picked the worst possible time to pursue adoption.

But as they say, there is no "right time" to get pregnant, so I'd say it's safe to assume there is no "right time" adopt.

A long, long, LONG time ago, a friend told me if you wait until you think you can afford children, you will never have children.

More recently, and after years of my infertility struggles, another friend told me she didn't want to give birth during hunting season because she knew she wouldn't get the much needed support of her hunter husband. I urged her not to plan her pregnancy around hunting season.

After nine years of battling infertility, I urge ALL my friends not to wait or try to plan their pregnancies for the "perfect" time. (Fertility peaks at age 27 for women, so it's only going to get more difficult to conceive after that whether you have infertility issues or not.)

And now I'm trying to remind myself of this too. If we are lucky enough to adopt soon, everything will work it's self out, even if the economy is not in our favor.


Sandy said...

I came across your blog and I so feel for what you are going through. When my husband and I were finally put on the list and just waiting... the clock seemed to tick in slow motion. For me that was the hardest part... the waiting. I am such a control freak and not having any control over when it would happen was very hard for me. What I didn't realize at the time that it was not in my time but in God's time. He had the perfect child chosen just for us and I just needed to wait and be patient for him to be born. Hang in there, I know it is so hard, but it is so worth it in the end! Trust me, you will totally forget about all the pain and heartache that you are going through right now when you hold that precious baby in your hands! You will be in my thoughts and prayers!

Mom of Snooch said...

I'm sorry that you have to go through this long wait. There are so many barriers in your way - particularly financial ones. I wish I had something to offer or to say to help this go faster. Everyone's prayers are important and it amazes me to see sort of random people find this blg and take the time to write to you.

Anonymous said...

Very true. I've put my life on hold for so long.

Stephanie said...

I know what you are saying about the economy, but I think it might work in your favor. There are probably many more women who are getting pregnant and feeling unable to provide for their child. Everything has a plus and a minus of course, but I am praying that your child comes your way soon!

Hollister said...

I read 24 was the peak of fertility. I'm 25 and have been trying for over a year. I hope it's 27 =)