Tuesday, September 30, 2008
I've been trying to find a social worker who will do our home study. I guess they call it an "independent" adoption because we are doing it independently, but don't quote me on that.
We are trying to get a home study done, and I've been doing my home work. The highest quote so far is $3,150, the lowest quote so far is $1,300. Do your homework, I can't stress that enough. This includes two meetings with the social worker and one visit to your home.
Even though we haven't started a home study yet, there are some things we can do to prepare for it, like ordering birth and marriage certificates. You don't need to wait for someone to tell you to do it. Specifically you need "certified" copies, which are different from "informational" copies. And the procedure to order these certificates varies from state to state, county to county, country to country. Again, do your homework.
While you you are waiting for your certificates to arrive, I also suggest you do a credit check to be sure your credit is in order because at some point, someone will be looking into your credit history.
Be thinking about who you'd like to have write references for you. I've read different things on this, some want your references to have known you for only two years, others for five years or more, so I'd suggest playing it safe and thinking of those who've known you five years or more. Just make a list at this point.
Get your house in shape. I've read that we shouldn't worry, they aren't going to come in with white gloves, but they want to be sure there is a room for a child and that your home is safe.
I hope to add more tips to this posting as I learn more.
10.31.08 On your financial statement, you may be asked if you have life insurance and what are the face and cash values. This is something you can find out before you begin your home study.
Monday, September 29, 2008
This booklet was developed for people who would like to consider adoption, but who may believe the process is too expensive. It details the expenses common to most adoptions, as well as those that were unique to the adoption of waiting children, independent adoptions, and international adoptions.
download a free 73-page booklet: How to Make Adoption an Affordable Option
Sunday, September 28, 2008
by Laura Beauvias-Godwin & Raymond Godwin, Esq.
(thanks to Stephanie for the recommendation!!!)
Thursday, September 25, 2008
When a young girl asks her parents about the first night of her life, she wants to know every detail. Was she tiny and perfect? How did her parents feel during their first night together? Why had her mommy and daddy decided to adopt her? Funny, tender, and altogether exuberant, here is one family’s celebration of their first cherished moments together.
Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born is a heartwarming story, not only of how one child is born but of how a family is born.
A note from Jamie: Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born is a celebration of adoption and belonging to a family. Both of my children are adopted, and Tell Me Again is about the experience of adoption from a child's point of view. The fact that the book has been so embraced by the adoption community has been a bonus that I did not expect.
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
A home study consists of:
- A series of visits with your adoption social worker, including at least one visit to the family home
- A medical form for all members of the household, completed by your family physician
- References from non-relatives, who have known you at least two years
- An autobiography which will include significant happenings in your life and your feelings associated with adopting a child
- Copies of birth certificate(s), marriage license (if applicable), divorce decrees (if applicable)
- Verification of employment or income
- Criminal, Sex Offender, and Child Protective Services Record Checks
- Agreement of Non-Use of Physical Punishment for a child placed in your care
Additional requirements will vary depending on the type of adoption you are considering, whether it be international or domestic (relative, open, parental placement, or agency).
Sharon wrote this story in Spring 2003 during a trip to Ukraine. She had an interesting experience and the word wombat was part of a conversation and seemed unique and appropriate. That was the year Sharon met her daughter Katy. This story is dedicated to the orphanage and the family Sharon traveled with. Her daughter will tell you that it is her life story. It is at the publisher now.
I will let you know when it's available for purchase. Sharon in planning on writing many more books. I've had the honor of seeing a proof of the book and it is beautifully written and illustrated.
Visit Sharon's website: The Elijah Foundation
Saturday, September 20, 2008
If you'd like to choose us:
- Go to http://www.onecause.com/ and register as a OneCause member.
- Choose The National Adoption Foundation as your favorite cause.
- On your home page, on the left side under "My Profile Settings" click on "Supporter Crediting."
- Click on the "Enroll in the National Adoption Foundation Supporter Crediting Program" and enter our registered email address: firstname.lastname@example.org
You can shop online and enter your credit cards to earn credits.
This is very similar to the Upromise program that lets you earn credit towards your child's college education.
Friday, September 19, 2008
The Mommy Orphanage was created by the mother and daughter team of Cheryl and Emily Krass. When Emily was five years old, she imagined the concept of a Mommy Orphanage and Cheryl expanded it into a book. Cheryl loved the unusual twist of the story and just knew it needed to be shared.
The Mommy Orphanage presents a unique twist on the international adoption story. While many children’s adoption stories are told from the point of view of parents as they portray the story of their journey to bring their new baby home, The Mommy Orphanage unfolds from a child’s perspective.
Emily was born in 2001 in the Guangdong Province of China in a city called Gaozhou. She spent the first 9 months of her life living in an orphanage called the Gaozhou Social Welfare Institute. In June of 2002, her parents Cheryl and Louis Krass, along with big brother Alex (who was 10 at the time), traveled to China to adopt Emily and bring her home to her new family.
The Mommy Orphanage website
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
We are lucky to have Sharon on our team!
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Sharon, a friend I went to Va. Tech with, use to work in international adoptions and has offered to lead us in any way she can. She has already given me lots of great information. In addition to three boys, Sharon adopted her daughter Kate from the Ukraine.
Ashley, an old friend of mine who also went to Va. Tech, as offered to mentor us through the adoption process. He and his wife Karen adopted their son Russell from Russia.
Jennifer, a friend of a friend, has also offered to help us in any way she can. I have never met Jennifer, but we've spoken on the phone and emailed. Jennifer and her husband have a daughter through domestic adoption. Wow, the kindness of strangers.
My family is already getting bigger :)
We have not decided whether we will do a domestic or international adoption. From what I've read, there are a lot of children in orphanages abroad, and in some ways, international adoption is preferred because these children have already been given up, therefore, there is little to no chance their birth parents would want to take them back.
I am also looking into grants to help us defray the cost of adoption. Sharon has given me a list to go through. She also gave me a checklist of things we need to do and collect, what a blessing she has been.
I'm still trying to get my head around all of this. It's a lot to take in. But with Sharon, Ashley, Jennifer and my family's support, everything seems a lot less daunting.
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Who knows where this adventure will lead us, as long as there is a baby to complete our family at the end of the road, I don't care where it takes us!
Thursday, September 4, 2008
A new door has opened for us, we just wanna be sure we check behind EVERY door.
Julie & Chris
We need to do a lot more work on our profile. We need to complete a home study. We need to hire an attorney. It's just all a lot more involved than we originally thought.
When the home study is complete, THEN our profile can go in the pile the birth mother picks from. We also found out the hospital in California only has 3–4 babies available for adoption per year. So we will be looking in additional places.
So we aren't expecting a newborn baby tomorrow or next week. But we are still expecting.