This is A, the 4-year-old girl, we are waiting to here about.
November 19 is the date of the "matching conference" for A.
This means they (her social worker and coworkers) will have already narrowed down the candidates to several homestudies. Then they narrow them down again in the "matching conference." Usually during that time they call the social worker to ask additional questions about the family. That's usually done as part of a conference call. Once a couple families have been picked they give the families full disclosure to see if they feel this is a good match for them. Then they pick the best family for the child.
Only the final candidate(s) meets the child. Then they spend some time with the child to make sure it's the right match. Usually an afternoon, then a day, then an over night. We will need to go where A is for a week to 10 days, should we be lucky enough to be chosen as the final candidates.
* Yes, we do find it curious that in this day and age, all they have is a black and white photo of A... hmmmm...
12.14.09 update: A's matching conference has been postponed until sometime in January. A family member may be interested in adopting A. Good news for A!
We've been trying to start our family since 2000. We've tried naturally, with infertility drugs, both oral and injections (self-inflicted by Julie) and two IUIs. None successful. We've had three miscarriages, though all pregnancies happened naturally.
We thought our problem was getting pregnant, we didn't realize we'd also have a problem staying pregnant. It seems it's just not meant to be. We spent over eight years on the infertility road.
We have now taken a turn onto the road to domestic adoption. We hope there is a baby, child or children out there somewhere who is/are waiting for us and wants to be part of our family.
A new road opened for us in February 2010. We are now in the process of receiving embryos through a private donation. We look forward to FET (Frozen Embryo Transfer) in the coming months, and hope for a successful pregnancy!
Who knew the road to parenthood would such a long and crazy one for us?
from Labor of the Heart
Your child is waiting for you somewhere. Your job is to find the people who will help you find her or him.
11.18.10 End of IVF journey
11.18.10 FET #2 failed
11.04.10 FET #2
08.12.10 FET #1 failed
07.29.10 FET #1
06.24.10 embryos arrived at our lab
06.10.10 legal agreement finalized
03.25.10 1st RE appointment - all is well!
03.18.10 began legal process for donor embryos
02.25.10 contacted by generous embryo donors
05.14.09 updated home study from newborn to age 0-5 and up to two sibs
01.18.09 profile completed
12.24.08 received finalized Home Study report approval!