Thursday, October 15, 2009

8,300 visits

Ok, so when I started this over a year ago, I never imagined I'd STILL be blogging about the process of adoption a year later! Good grief!

This week I've been thinking about taking the bad with the good. We are considering children age 0–5. I've been trying to process this. On the good side, we may not have to go through potty training drama, on the bad side, we could have a child/children who don't wanna call us mom and dad for awhile. I could go on, but I won't. These are just the two I've been pondering as of late.

We inquired about 3 sisters this week. Ages 5, 6 & 7. I asked our social worker (SW) to submit our home study report, as you do. I got email back from her asking how we expected to provide for 3 girls. I was like wha??? How quickly she forgets. A few months ago she called and told us about 3 kids who needed a home, I asked her how she expected us to provide for 3 children. That's when she told us about adopting from social services and that we'd get a stipend for each child until they are 18 as well as help with medical until the adoption was complete.

I reminded SW of this. She was like oh, I'd just come in and I wasn't making the connection. Hello? who did you think I was??? AAARRRRRRGGGGGGG! with a big Peanut's mouth!!!

So this afternoon I hear back from SW that these 3 girls are only available to families who have children and/or experience with adoption. Why would the leave that most important piece of information out of the girl's profile???

I feel sad. People ask me "what about the baby from NY?" "what about the boy from Ohio?" and I can't remember. Sadly, it's similar to applying for jobs: you only hear back from the one's you are being considered for. No news is bad news.

We are just normal people. We live in a smallish house in the country. We don't drive fancy cars. We shop at Old Navy and Trader Joe's. No Starbucks. We have 2 dogs. We just what a family. Why is that SO hard for us?

At dinner overheard a conversation at the table near us, it went something like this: "but she's THIRTY-THREE AND PREGNANT!!! AND they've been trying for SEVEN YEARS! She's just too old..." Yes, I remained seated, no, I did not embarrass my husband.


Logical Libby said...

You have much more self control that I do. I would have punched someone.

Life and Adoption! said...

I would have punched someone too! We are simple people too, and so I'm rooting for you. No one should have to be RICH to adopt. Your kid(s) will come!

Julie said...

thanks girls, your support is appreciated :) if i see him again, I might just have to clock him. LOL

Michelle said...

I just discovered your blog through Melissa of full circle. I am praying that your child comes home soon.. God has your child. ;)

Anonymous said...


Another example of caseworker incomptence. We deal with this, seems like as much as you. We too have broadening our thinking a bit, but no success as well
Everytime, you feel there is possibility, something comes along to knock you down.

Hopefully both our families can find that special child that will call us Mom or Dad.

Best Wishes,
Steve & Alyson