I want to know what you think about names. Specifically, changing the name of an adopted child. I have been pondering this subject for some time now. I go back and fourth. Sometimes I feel like the child has been through enough, who are we to go changing their first name.
Then I think, if they are under a certain age, it may be ok. Like if they cannot spell their name yet, it might be ok.
I've also heard of older children who want to pick a new first name because they associate their given first name with bad things, and their former life.
With some names, it's just a matter of um, well, correcting the spelling, and I don't really see that as a problem, unless of course, the child is old enough to spell their name, then it may be a problem or not an option.
We've been trying to start our family since 2000. We've tried naturally, with infertility drugs, both oral and injections (self-inflicted by Julie) and two IUIs. None successful. We've had three miscarriages, though all pregnancies happened naturally.
We thought our problem was getting pregnant, we didn't realize we'd also have a problem staying pregnant. It seems it's just not meant to be. We spent over eight years on the infertility road.
We have now taken a turn onto the road to domestic adoption. We hope there is a baby, child or children out there somewhere who is/are waiting for us and wants to be part of our family.
A new road opened for us in February 2010. We are now in the process of receiving embryos through a private donation. We look forward to FET (Frozen Embryo Transfer) in the coming months, and hope for a successful pregnancy!
Who knew the road to parenthood would such a long and crazy one for us?
from Labor of the Heart
Your child is waiting for you somewhere. Your job is to find the people who will help you find her or him.
11.18.10 End of IVF journey
11.18.10 FET #2 failed
11.04.10 FET #2
08.12.10 FET #1 failed
07.29.10 FET #1
06.24.10 embryos arrived at our lab
06.10.10 legal agreement finalized
03.25.10 1st RE appointment - all is well!
03.18.10 began legal process for donor embryos
02.25.10 contacted by generous embryo donors
05.14.09 updated home study from newborn to age 0-5 and up to two sibs
01.18.09 profile completed
12.24.08 received finalized Home Study report approval!